Beyond Baby Mamas

Conversations with Single Mothers of Color

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A recent study says 49% of pregnancies are unplanned in this country.

Forty-nine percent! I know what you’re thinking — that can’t all be Britney Spears. But isn’t the stereotype of the mother behind the unplanned pregnancy the low-class redneck, the slutty chick who’s too dumb to use birth control, the teen moms and the promiscuous college students? Turns it out it’s a lot of people. Probably your mom, even. Ask her!

What I really don’t get is the stigmata. I mean stigma. (I actually really don’t get stigmata either.) What’s the big diff? I never tried to pretend that my baby wasn’t a happy accident. You’re not a worse mother because you weren’t sure if you wanted a baby or not. In some ways, I would argue that this can actually make you a better, more realistic mother. If I had studied in college like I studied for having a baby I’d be writing this from my desk on a space station where I’d have a job as a really well-paid smart person who lived in space because I knew so much I couldn’t even live on earth anymore.

Jezebel’s Tracy Moore on unplanned pregnancies

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